Can a single person be happy?How

Being single is not anything to be ashamed about in our age!Being single at any age can be challenging in a world that seems to place so much importance on finding the love of your life and becoming a couple. The whole world seems to be geared up to support you in this quest.There is very little support given to those who are consciously choosing to be spend time alone, learning to enjoy their own company and the creativity it sparks.

 There is always a wrong perception to un-partnered people which looks ridiculous to me,especially since more and more people are realising that the partnerships they formed early in life, have failed to pass the tests of time and they themselves are now living the single life. Here are five tips for making the most of being single.

1. Relax Your singledom will not last a lifetime. Well, it will if it is meant to but this is a very rare karma. The worst thing you can do is panic and think you have to find someone immediately or your life is over. This air of desperation is by far the most debilitating energy to bring into a new relationship with yourself or with anyone new for that matter. It makes you blind to obvious red flags, signs to wrong choice and puts you in all kinds of compromising situations.
So once again - take a breath. Be happy to have been given this special opportunity to get to know yourself Look at it this way — if you are uncomfortable spending time alone with yourself, what makes you think anyone else will feel comfortable spending time with you? This can be quite a challenge to someone that has continuously filled up their lives with someone else only to discover that they really don't know or like themselves at all. Having a relationship with yourself is exactly like having a relationship with someone else. You have to be supportive, caring, understanding, and yes, you have to learn to listen and communicate with yourself and your inner guidance. Sometimes the only way to get you to listen to yourself is to force this "time alone" upon you.

2.Give yourself a chance Being happy alone does not happen overnight especially if you are a recovering codependent. There will be times that you feel like you're invisible, no one will ever love you, you're wasting your life, your life is passing you by... and a whole lot of other negative self talk. The best thing to do is to take yourself for a walk or — even better — on a date. Learn how to cheer yourself up. The better you get at being alone, the better you will be at being in a relationship. For some it is extremely difficult to cater to your own needs. Are you one of these people that will happily cook if someone is over at your place but cook noodles if your alone, or cook fried rice for your girlfriend while you sip garri if alone? Make the effort to cook for yourself. Seriously, this is one of the most self loving things you can do for yourself. Cook yourself something new each week, each day even. You deserve it!
  

3.Take charge of your reality and give up all that envy Stop worrying about everyone else around you getting into relationships, and thinking that you need to as well. All those happy couples in movies and TV shows are the fabrications of Hollywood,Nollywood,bollywood and all the "woods" you can think of, writers designed to sell tickets and get high TV ratings. Real couples have messy lives—they fight, leave the bathroom dirty and steal the remote from each other. Give up those unrealistic fantasies of your 'soulmate', and notice how most people around you are just regular folk - good people, but not magical heroes who fix each others' lives. And stop thinking the unimaginable

4.Realize that you are still lucky and fortunate. Many people around the world are either: chronically ill, homeless, living in poverty, starving, fleeing from warfare, and have no personal freedoms due to dictatorships. If you think you are not lucky because you are single, think again!. People in those aforementioned conditions have it harder than you! (However, if you unable to feel happy in spite of recognising your luck, you may need to meet with a counsellor to discuss the possibility that you have clinical depression or a similar illness) I can offer you a counselling if you wish
5.Meet new people Not necessarily for romantic reasons, just to expand your support community. If you are consciously attempting to stay out of relationships for a designated time period, you will still need people to share your life with. Friendships are paramount. Where would we be without our friends? Truly alone. No friends? Are you friendly? Do you make an effort to say hello and meet new people? Perhaps you need some help with overcoming shyness. It is always us that separates ourselves from others. Take responsibility for who you are or are not attracting into your life and make the necessary changes to attract some solid friends. No Mr n Mrs tidy alone my guy stinggy knows better

Above all Become an optimist, This is a trait that helps you whether you are single, married, divorced or widowed! Keep a gratitude diary and every night think of 3 things you are grateful for. Find the silver lining in everything throughout your day, and savor little pleasures. You'll live longer, make it through tough times more smoothly, and even avoid the common cold more often!